Absence / illness

[anit123]

Hi

I wanted to post this anonymously for some advice really. I had two absences in a row about two weeks ago, the first one being because of a cock-up of me not reading my rota properly and the second because I was genuinely very sick. The issue is that I personally believe it's all rooted back to some personal issues I've had which has impacted on stress levels, as usually I'm very organised and committed to my work. I'm worried about raising that with my line manager in case that is used against me (as I've already had one of my shifts coincidently replaced by someone else). To make it worse, I was told to get in contact with my line manager, yet after several attempts he has not contacted me back. I feel like my apologies have not been acknowledged at all and it's eating at me so badly that I cannot let go of it! It's worrying me more and more, and I feel like I've been constantly worrying since last Friday!

This is probably extreme paranoia as I've NEVER been on the wrong side of anyone at work in my life! Is it wise to make yet another attempt (a 4th attempt to be precise) to contact my line manager and say I have personal problems that I don't wish to disclose?! Or will I just make myself feel even more stupid because he might not get back to me again anyway?! Am I making a big deal out of nothing?! I don't want a black mark against my record that's all!!!

[sleather1]

Document attempts to try to make contact for future reference. Witness if possible aswell that you made repeated attempts which went unheeded. That way if anything is to happen in the future that could have been avoided had your line manager actually spoken and tried to support you, you have some evidence to back yourself up

[Fleegle]

Hi

I wanted to post this anonymously for some advice really. I had two absences in a row about two weeks ago, the first one being because of a cock-up of me not reading my rota properly and the second because I was genuinely very sick. The issue is that I personally believe it's all rooted back to some personal issues I've had which has impacted on stress levels, as usually I'm very organised and committed to my work. I'm worried about raising that with my line manager in case that is used against me (as I've already had one of my shifts coincidently replaced by someone else). To make it worse, I was told to get in contact with my line manager, yet after several attempts he has not contacted me back. I feel like my apologies have not been acknowledged at all and it's eating at me so badly that I cannot let go of it! It's worrying me more and more, and I feel like I've been constantly worrying since last Friday!

This is probably extreme paranoia as I've NEVER been on the wrong side of anyone at work in my life! Is it wise to make yet another attempt (a 4th attempt to be precise) to contact my line manager and say I have personal problems that I don't wish to disclose?! Or will I just make myself feel even more stupid because he might not get back to me again anyway?! Am I making a big deal out of nothing?! I don't want a black mark against my record that's all!!!

OK..you say your two absences were due to 1) A rota 'cock-up'
and 2) Genuine sickness.

You then say these incidents are rooted back to stress-related personal issues. Only you know the extent of this problem, and the true reason for your absences. You must directly contact the Human Resources department of the company you work for, and provide them with full details, should you feel it is appropriate for you to do so. Forget your line manager for now; it is not his job to deal with problems such as this, and you should understand that, as I'm sure he also will. Further, the last thing you should do is apologise, as you clearly know there is an existing problem.
One last thing to bear in mind..whoever told you to contact your line manager directly may not have given you the best advice.
Bottom line..get it off your chest, but make sure it's to the right person.
Hope this helps,
Fleegle.